Looking Much Younger Than Most

One of the new paid dating sites I've been trying out has been frustrating me.  Not the site itself, but the users who are contacting me.  I get sent "winks" from a lot of men who are completely age inappropriate.  While I would ideally like to date someone within a few years of me, I have good friends with husbands 10 years older, so I'm willing to consider anyone within a decade.  But if you're 15, 20 or 30 years older than me, it is unacceptable and a complete waste of my time going through your "winks".


This morning I received a message from "TalldarkMexican7".  Nothing at all wrong with his message to me, it was actually quite good.  But of course I'm going to read his profile to see if I think we're a good match.  He says he's 35, born in Mexico, lived in Miami for awhile, is humble and honest . . . Then way way down at the very bottom of his profile, after his "About Me" section and all of his basic facts and things he's looking for, filed under "Faith" is this little note:

I believe in respecting all religions, Also if you read all the way up to here, I am not 35, I am a couple of years more, just want to see if I am talking to a real person or a machine, if you ask I will know its not a computer !!!

So TalldarkMexican7, you lie about your age to test that I'm really a person?  I definitely do not follow your line of thinking.


Yesterday I received a message from "BingoBongo37".  It was brief, didn't say much and I of course checked out his profile to see if anything sparked my interest.  His basic profile information says that he's 37 and as I was clicking through his photos I thought that he looks rather old for 37.  And then I checked myself for being too judgmental.

Reading through his profile I learn that he's originally from Eastern Europe, goes to the gym, loves to travel, follows a healthy lifestyle, etc.  He also said that "I am looking much younger than most at my age" which I thought was rather bizaare considering I thought he looks old for his age.

Then he launched into what he's looking for in a woman . . .

Still looking... I am very selective, warm, passionate, and like every man... I want a woman who is beautiful and smart. Someone who I can share a connection with on an emotional, intellectual, and energetic level. A woman I can touch and hold, and communicate openly, someone who is highly intelligent, active, passionate, as well as sincere and genuine. The woman I can feel an incredible connection, an incredible energy with... passion, and extreme sensuality flowing... is that you? 

P.S. I don't want biologically old women with low drive seeing me in their search results and daily matches, so I changed my age in this profile. I am 48. No offense please. Write to me.

Excuse me BingoBongo37.  You don't want biologically old women?  So you lie about your age by 11 years until the post-script?  Not cool.

If you're not willing to be truthful about the basic facts about you, it's a terrible start.

A Valentine's Day Reminder

It's Valentine's Day. Maybe it's because I had too many heart shaped birthday cakes growing up (my birthday is the 16th) that Valentines has just never excited me. I'm not anti-it, more just don't care.

Scrolling through my social networks this morning it's all Valentines Day notes and pictures and quotes. But I thought this one was fitting to share here.

On A Snowy Winter Day

We had a big snow storm the other day which left a lot of people (including myself) huddled up inside with nothing much to do but rest and wait for the storm to pass.  Apparently this made the men on the dating sites extra . . . how should I say . . . restless?

I joined a new dating site the other day.  It's a paid site, but I got a great deal on it and thought I'd take advantage of trying out what in theory should be a more serious site, with little financial commitment.  The very first message I received on the site was from "Hoodwink" with a subject line of "Hmmm".

"You know, I do enjoy f*cking ! As long as you don't get attached.  Right"

Hmmm . . .

But Hoodwink wasn't the only man out there cruising the online dating world for a hook-up on a snowy winter day.

"loverboy1009" sent me this gem of a get-to-know you message:

"Wow I wanna come all ower you
Ohhhhhhhhh
Ohhhhhhhhh.ohhhhhhh
Ohhhhhhhhhh
O yea
O yea"

I'm so tired of this garbage.  I couldn't help myself.  Before deleting and blocking "loveboy1009", I replied

"Wow.  I guess I should be flattered that I turn you on to the point that you lose your ability to spell.  

Stick to the sex personals."

I guess there was just something in the air that day besides the snow.