If There Is Anything That Offends You In This Profile

Just now I clicked on a profile because the photo caught my eye and the profile made such an impression on me I had to share it immediately.  As a woman blogging about the frequently baffling behaviour of men on online dating sites, it was rather interesting to come across a man with complaints about the way women behave.  But I think "mussikk" is beyond baffled - to me he comes across as downright angry.  Or something.  Read for yourself . . .

" I have to say this off the top. Some of you (Not all of course) say not to msg. you just "Hi" or something along those lines. Just a little insight to the way a guy might think about that. You ladies get alot of msgs. so most guys are thinking, "hey, I'll just shoot her a quick "Hello" and if she likes me, Hell I'll write her a novel. But, come on why would a person spend half an hour doing that without even knowing if you would reply? Nobody likes the "Cut and Paste" thing but I bet a lot of guys do that just to get around this.

Anyway, good luck and here goes!! 

1. Drama? Move on, love yourself, not me first.
2. Thin means "THIN!" I don't have a type per say (I'm a face person if anything) but insult my intelligence and I don't think I'd reply.
3. Honesty is a very big deal with me but even more important is not putting yourself in a position that hurts to have to be honest.
4..Oh my God!! If you say you're "Educated" and are looking for the same, good Lord, at least proof read your profile and have your sentences make sense. Just saying something doesn't make it so. Want to add that I am not referring to someone who is learning English, I understand and appreciate your efforts!

The girl I would like to meet is "Actually" Average Body Type, I mean what I (and most people on the planet that aren't overweight) think is average. Some of you are overweight, say you're "Average" and even though you look great, it's a turn off! It's like you think a guy will just overlook the fact that you're BSing him just because you have a set of Boobs! Trust me only scumbag, DB's care about something that superficial. Athletic or Thin Body Type is awesome as well, remember, just because you are Athletic doesn't mean you have an Athletic Body Type, I say that specifically because, well the "Average Body Type" thing. There is nothing wrong with a few extra pounds, the part I take issue with is lying. Don't mean to offend anyone, I just want to be with her forever and I know what I want, as do you. More sweet than sarcastic but the latter is cool in small doses too. Honest, and Loyal. I will treat you like the center of my universe, like my best friend, and no one will ever know what we're thinking because it will be us against the world. I am a romantic guy who loves to hold hands, a surprise weekend away, talking, really talking, this means actually listening to what the other person is saying, reading between the lines. Sometimes it's nice to not have to actually come out and say it, if you know what I mean, your soul mate should get you when other are thinking "what the F*CK?!?. When I want something I don't give up easily and I am working hard to get to the next stage in my life. I know that journey will be so much better with a little devil/angel by my side. I have literally traveled to over 70% of Canada, love to cook, run, kite board, ride my motorcycle, play guitar, sing, write and I produce music/artists and help people when I can. Having said all that don't think I'm some sort of pretty boy pushover. I'm a guys guy and can use my hands, mind and muscles, not afraid to get dirty....not like that but, of course like that too lol. That's all for now and, I can't believe I actually have to say this but......Have a picture! Hell, go nuts, have 3 or 4!

P.S. Any personal information I have put in here, that [this website] has no business asking
people (such as "income/age/etc.") is incorrect, my pictures are what I look like 
but the rest is not for some jackass to try and exploit if we click I'll tell you. 

Best of luck to everyone and if there is anything that offends you in this profile, just ask yourself this. 
Do I really think it's worth my time to comment on this guys profile if he's just going to delete my megs?? Do I, really?? "


Don't worry "muzzikk", I'm not offended enough by your profile to "megs" you about it . . . this blog entry will suffice.

King of the Peacocks

I've written in the past (though not for awhile) about what I've dubbed " Peacocking ".  This term is for habit of men on online dating sites to post photos of themselves in some form of shirtless/flexing/working out/posing in front of a mirror.  I don't know what reaction the Peacocks want, but it just makes me uncomfortable.

Awhile ago, I came across a profile that truly astounded me.  As I looked through his profile, all I could think was "This guy is the King of the Peacocks".  So much prancing and showing off for one profile!  I had to share the full glory of the photo selection.  (Faces are blurred to protect the shameless.)

(Yes, he is actually sudded up and dripping water, that is not my editting.)

He speaks for himself.

I Am Okay With Changing That

Just the other day I blogged about receiving messages from men in other countries and noted that it is just rather strange to me.  I've recently received a message from "mi_the14_u" who, while closer than Portugal and Turkey (the subjects of the last blog), is still across the border.

I found his message to be both presumptuous and pushy.  I'll let you judge . . .

" Oh my gosh a girl who is honest on here and loves to make out as well. LOL, We should meet up and try that sometime. After a great date of course and after a nice soft kiss....... I like what I see very much so and would love to get to that point but first comes first and we need to decide to change the rest of our lives and meet up and start the kick ass fun together. What do you say.. Do not say no or you will miss out in a great guy who will be there for you in all the ups and downs of life. More ups of course... I know I am in the states but I am ok with changing that. In fact I am working on it since my girls are in Canada and I am here for them from Washington state. So enough about what I want. what do you want. 

Let me know and lets start making it come to pass.

Talk to you soon


[real name] "

The fact that he's stating that he's working on coming to Canada as he pursues someone in Canada (me) is just too suspicious for me.

"mi_the14_u" asked what I want?  Someone in my city, or at least already in my country.

A Glimpse of My Character

I understand that when people are browsing an online dating site, there are certain physical traits that any individual finds attractive and you are drawn to people with those traits.  I browse photos for ones that pique my interest and I usually look at the "body type" and "height" categories.  It's not necessarily that I'll rule people out who don't quite fit my ideal, but certainly if they fall into what I prefer, it's a bonus towards them.  So I understand that aspect of things.

But I would never message a guy and say "Hey, you're tall.  I like that." (in more or less words or in any way at all.)  "maaximumseduction" essentially does just that in his message to me.  I'll share his message in a moment . . .

I've written before that a pet peeve of mine are messages that are obviously just copied and pasted to anyone the guy writes to.  "maaximumseduction" admits that's what he's doing - yet does it anyway.

Anyway, I'll leave the rest of this post to the words from the man himself:

"Hi there checked out your profile as I think in your photo you appeared to be a curvy female and I do love that. Of course personality, character, intelligence are much more important for "some" of us men, so naturally wanted to send you a message and find out what you were like. Anyways check out my profile and if you feel there is a synergy there or an interest from your angle, please do get back and let's connect:

Hope your holidays are going great

[real name]

PS. Yes this is a canned message template, I send to women that are curvy, initially I spot and want to get to know. Saves me time from rewriting each time. I did want to reach out to you "personally" however! I hope you appreciate my brutal honesty. Most men would never admit that. Hopefully you can get a glimpse of my character!"

Matches from Afar . . .

I've officially given up on one of the dating sites I've had a profile on.  It was recommended to me by a couple friends last summer, but it's been pretty terrible.  There seem to be very few people on it because I consistently see the same men on the site.  Then the site's matches are ridiculous.  This is the site I wrote of before that matched me with a gay man.

Recently I've received multiple messages from men from overseas.

Last week I received a "Hi" message from 'patux73'.  Those one-word messages always irritate me, but then I was rather baffled when I clicked on his profile and it stated that he lives in Portugal.  I mean, cool, I'd love to see Portugal one day, but not by going to have a first date you know?

Just yesterday, 'Cornelly1' messaged me:

" u r gorgeous
i wish i was in toronto :))  "

I thought maybe he was elsewhere in Ontario.  A quick click at his profile revealed he is in Istanbul, Turkey.

Why users in Portugal and Turkey are viewing my profile (when I clearly state in my settings and preferences that I'm looking within a 75 kilometre radius - the smallest radius offered on the site), I have no idea.  But I must be popular with men in Turkey, because 'turksir_74' is also from there.  He wrote:

"Hi from Istanbul Turkey.  I know you are far away but if you would be open to talking, getting to know each other and dealing with long distance and time difference I would like that.  I am looking for a serious woman and interested in marriage and a family.  Hope to hear from you soon."

Now I am looking for a serious relationship ideally.  But when a man starts out by approaching me from another country and saying he wants marriage, I can't help but feel suspicious.

Or maybe I should just move to Turkey to find a boyfriend.

Ouch . . .

Could I Interest You?

While I wish that my silence on the blog recently could be because I've found someone, I remain single and searching.  My dating scene has been relatively quiet.  I met a friend of a friend's husband and had hopes it would be different because I actually met someone in person rather than online.  But it ended really before it ever really began.  I was quite upset about it at first and felt rather silly at the same time that I was upset when we'd only had a couple of dates.  A friend pointed out that when a relationship ends, women mourn not just what was, but the hope we'd had for what was to come.  Completely true and completely accurate about why I was really upset . . . back to square one . . .

I'm currently debating about how to proceed.  I'm really tired of the dating sites I've been using, but I still lack ideas for how else to meet someone.  So I haven't deleted my accounts yet - which is good for my readers because I have some real gems stored in my inbox to share here.

"wildcowboy13" messaged me:

"Hey. I'm looking for a serious f*ck buddy :) Could I interest you?"

His profile however was deleted before I could check him out or respond.  If you're going to send that blunt of a message, you think you'd want to stick around for a response!  Not that I would have given him what he was asking for.

More gems to come soon . . .