Online Dating is Tedious

I'm single and searching for the love of my life.  Sounds cliche, overly romantic and naive.  I am none of those things.  I'm level-headed and realistic.  It's not about just wanting a boyfriend, or wanting a husband, or wanting to get married.  I do want those things, but I'm more concerned with finding the right person than just finding someone.

Most of my current efforts into finding the right man for me is through online dating.  I cringe every time I say it. But I work in an environment with children, so there aren't exactly eligible bachelors walking into my office very often.  I like going out, but I've never been the sort of girl who just strikes up conversations with strangers.  I have a theory that amongst all of my married girlfriends (and I have MANY), surely one of their husbands must have a single friend who is as lovely as I am.  But I've yet to be seen up on a single date by any friends.  So online dating it is!

Online dating is tedious.  I look through dozens of profiles before I find one that catches my interest enough to actually write.  Of the messages I send, I'll only hear back from a few.  On the other end, I'll receive plenty of messages, but most of them give me nothing to actually respond to.  Occasionally there will be a man who I actually get a conversation going back and forth with.  For every say 10 of those men, I'll actually get a date.  Of the roughly dozen men I've had first dates with in the last 4 months, only 3 of them have I had a second date with (and only one of those lasted beyond the second date).  It takes time and a lot of false starts and hopes and so far I'm not getting very far.

Starting this blog first came out of the idea that I just needed somewhere to vent.  It's a challenge to not feel disheartened at times throughout the dating process.  When venting to friends however, I've realized that I've gained some pretty entertaining stories.  So I hope that from the ridiculous scenarios I've happened upon, I'm hoping a good will come out of it: I may entertain anyone who happens to come across this space.

To finish off this introductory post, I want to share the source of my inspiration for the blog title.  Below is a link to Charlotte Martin's song "The Stalker Song" (also known as "I'm Normal, Please Date Me)".  Of course, the great irony is that the narrator of the song is anything but normal.  The song consistently brings a smile to my face.  My stories are to come.  For now, enjoy this one.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6gC1zO_y9l0