A First Impression You Can't Take Back

When I get a first message from a new guy I always, in this order: look at their photos, read their profile, read the message they sent.

Back in March, I received a message from "proman33".  He only had one photo on his profile and it was fine - didn't really make a big impression one way or another.  His profile was fairly impressive.  He has a masters degree and works in the medical field.  He listed dance as an interest (as a dancer, I of course liked this).  Above all, he made it clear he's looking for a serious relationship.  His profile headline said "NO GAMES PLEASE, SERIOUS LADIES ONLY" and he said that he "just wants to meet someone that has the same goals and interests".  So, okay, I'm interested to see what this guy had to say to me in his message.

His message said,

"wow you're sexy. i really want to f*ck you right now. no offense intended, just callin' it like it is."

My jaw literally dropped, I was speechless and every other cliche when you're totally thrown off.  Then I was pissed.  This is the message I get from a guy who screams in his profile headline "SERIOUS LADIES ONLY"?  Needless to say, this guy was immediately deleted and then filed into my repertoire of bad online dating stories.

When just recently I saw in my inbox a new message from proman33, I couldn't believe it.  I took a moment to prepare myself for whatever his latest overtly sexual message to me would be.

This time he wrote,

"you're so beautiful and seem really interesting.  i'd like to get to know you better.  hope to hear from you soon."

Um?  What?  proman33, did you forget that you told me you wanted to f*ck me as your first impression?  Apparently!  I'm sorry but that is a first impression that you just can't forget.  And for me, it wasn't a good one.

I made sure to not just delete the message but to block him entirely.  While proman33 makes a good story, he doesn't make a promising dating possibility.